The art of relaxation or chemistry

On a night when the country makes loud noises and celebrates freedom with a bang, I find myself reflecting on another kind of freedom. The freedom of total relaxation, the freedom of uncanny chemistry, the freedom that natural attraction provides. The freedom that occurs when two individuals find themselves drawn to one another is something which mere words can only attempt to describe. After all how can one describe that chemistry with another that is found so compelling, so wonderful , so invigorating? How? It is one thing to experience it. It is another to attempt to put into words some sort of form that their substance reflects. Futile endeavor? Perhaps but it is rewarding trying. It is rewarding reflecting on the one so cared for. It is wonderful to think about their moments of relaxation shared together. In those moments words do not always have to be spoken. In those moments they are just who they are, as they are with one another. In those moments their connection transcends all else.

How can something so magical which occurs with another human being be created? What are the proper words to say? What is the best tone of voice to use? Is there a certain smile or look to entice another? What is the art of chemistry with another? How does one make it work? Where does one get the magnets to pull another towards one? And how is relaxation with another achieved? Is there a formula?

This freedom is elusive at best and often lust is mistaken for it. But it is not lust. It is what it is. It just is. Chemistry is chemistry and cannot be created. Oh we can fake our behavior around others, to be sure, yes. But REAL CHEMISTRY between two people cannot be created. It happens without effort on their part. It just happens they mix . Who we are attracted to, well can we control that? Just try it. Can you? I didn't think so. So, if we somehow by chance meet a person that we feel totally relaxed around we should cherish the moments. Yes moments. They may be fleeting. Or they may last. That part is up to us, both of us. It takes two as they say. Not to create chemistry or to relax but it takes two to make it last.

Inevitably conflicts arise and oh yes they most definitely will! Any relationship over an extended period of time will experience serious conflict. If it doesn't, I submit to you it is not real in some aspect. Those conflicts threaten the relationship. Compromise then occurs or it doesn't. It is what happens at these times of challenge that determines the continuity of their existence together. Either they communicate and work it out or they don't and fail together. If their chemistry is such that they love one another to an extent to work it out, then they will. If not they won't. Simple huh?

Sounds simple to me. However time , routines and the stuff of life all make it difficult in this day and age for relationships to endure. So perhaps I need to think more about cherishing the moments. Certainly with respect to life in general, yes, but within the context of this blog, that person I feel totally relaxed around. I want to cherish each moment we spend together. Sounds too idealistic? Perhaps. But a good ideal to strive for. Progress, not perfection they say.

As pure as vanilla is are the moments we spend together. It may be talking, it may be silence, it may be a game played, a movie talked about, it may be this , it may be that but ultimately it is our chemistry. Without effort we are, without effort we share. Beautiful relaxing chemistry, beautiful relaxing us. Wonderful moments that only time will tell...the rest of the tale. But as for now the moments are pure. Like you. And I do like you. More than a lot...